Laurel’s Monday Message 1-30-12

Are you feeling like the powerful creator of your life? Do you feel satisfied with life as you look about you? Are you feeling motivated to make changes? What keeps you from making changes that you deeply desire?

Maybe you’re feeling ready for a next step after last week’s message. Last week’s message was to remind yourself that you can begin to recreate your life by saying inside, “I am the powerful creator of my life”. It may feel like it’s time, as you look at your life, to begin taking inventory. What’s working – what’s not? The most important attitude you can cultivate with this step is a kind and gentle attitude. Taking our time to consciously craft our lives is like an art project. Allowing the process to develop one stage at time, growing it from a creative place that takes each modification into account, proceeding slowly is prudent. This is not a race, it’s important crafting that is worth all the attention and love that you can give it. Click here for today’s Monday Message.

Common Knowledge

What kinds of ideas do you consider common knowledge? Maybe these are some. The grass is green. The sky is blue. In America, we elect our President every four years. Coffee and tea are typical morning beverages of choice. If you suddenly need medical care because of an immediate health problem, head to the emergency room of a hospital. Women, not men, give birth to babies. Cars need gasoline to operate.

The time has come for us to understand how our inner worlds operate. The knowledge is available, but one has to voluntarily acquire it. Knowing the basics will change your life forever, and empower you in new ways. Consider some of the basics and muse about how these ideas might change your life.

We can direct our thinking. Living in a culture in which it is common to find people saying they are stressed out, it’s common to find people feeling stuck in negative or fearful thought patterns. Worry is a common complaint of many – worry is fearful thinking. We know that altering our thought patterns deeply impacts the quality of our life. We know that gratitude thinking actually changes our brain chemistry, helping us to feel good! Learning how to direct our thinking can be common knowledge.

Wow, feeling power over our brain chemistry – that’s exciting!

What we feel inside contains a powerhouse of personal insights and knowledge about humanity. Often we lack the skills to manage how we feel. We have not been taught well, if at all, how to use the power of emotion to identify important aspects of our unique self and help us to interact well with the world. Many people are walking around with a bundle of unexpressed and repressed emotion that clouds healthy, balanced thinking, leaving many feeling like a victim in their life. The way to utilize our feelings is first to feel them, then accept them, followed by expressing them in a healthy manner, and then understand how they teach us about humanity and our personal experience of it.

Wow, not feeling trapped by our feelings, burdened by them, or tired of them – that’s fabulous!

We are naturally creative beings. Watching a child grow in a healthy environment, we see their interest in creating – making up stories, pretending to be someone else, playing teacher, doctor, pirate, mother or father. Some of that creative energy goes underground when children make their way through the “school system”. It isn’t gone, it’s just lost inside, maybe buried under a belief adopted along the way that “I’m not good enough, smart enough, or creative enough to make the grade.” This is sad – a true loss for the world. As an adult, we can decide to take responsibility in reconnecting with our creative nature, impassioning our life with this energy.

Wow, reconnecting with an internal source of energy that naturally improves our life – that’s fantastic!

Be a part of making this knowledge, common knowledge. Embody it, live it and express it!

Laurel’s Monday Message, 1-23-12

It’s Monday! And I am here to remind you that you are creating your life moment-to-moment. Yes, you are creating the QUALITY of your life. Your life has a rhythm that is defined by your family, your friends, your work, your personal needs and your priorities – yes – your choices. You have created the rhythm and are making it what it is this day.

Have you chosen consciously? Do you feel trapped in a pattern of life and feel stuck with choices that now seem ill-fitting? It’s never – with a capital N – too late to make new choices. If the choices were big ones, start small. Little changes can be confidence builders, they can remind you that you are more powerful than you might remember in this moment. I hope my Monday video message inspires you to exercise your authentic inner power, causing you to pay attention to each little choice you make. Remember, you are the powerful creator of your life.

How Can I Help You?

Hello Blog Reader-Follower,

Today as I muse about my future endeavors and what I plan to create in the world, I am inspired to ask you –

• What will help you?
• What are you doing that you need support in?
• How can I be of service in my sharing, both writing and “videoing”?
• How is your life challenging you?
• What are you finding difficult to deal with?
• What kind of life skills are you working to develop?
• What life skills do believe you lack, but want?

In case you didn’t know this about me, I want to help ☺ I hope to support you in creating a life that you wake up to each day and say – Yes! Through creating a life I love and enjoy daily, my deep desire has become to share the skills of how to make this happen with anyone who wants them. So, how may I help?

Please take a moment, take a breath, and post a comment here at the blog or email me at laurelhollandh@gmail.com, and let me know – How can I help you? I so want to know.

Laurel’s Monday Message, 1-16-12

Happy Monday! Do you like Mondays? If not, how come? This feeling is certainly something to consider working with and transforming into a positive energy. Beginning the week with a feeling of resistance sets a tone that can trap us in a pattern of negativity – for the whole week! Taking steps to learn to enjoy and appreciate Mondays can be life enhancing.

My Monday video message is a follow-up to last week. I continue the topic of developing a pattern of thinking about what you like and what is working in your life as a way of establishing habits that support building a life that you deeply desire. I also talk about why it is so essential to work with the mind – how the mind causes us to connect with what we bring into our lives in a material way. The power of the mind is incredible. Any bad habits can be changed with desire and persistence. Make this the year you become the master of your mind as your powerful tool of creation! Click here for today’s message.

Your Navigation System, In Parts

Your inner navigation system can help direct you into a great life. In order to use your navigation system well, it is helpful to know the basics about it. Your inner navigation system can be thought of in four parts, the physical, the emotional, the mental and the spiritual. Each part is consistently reflecting back to you the state of your being. When we become conscious of this truth, and pay good attention to it, we can make the most of the information that emerges. Here is a brief look at the four parts.

The physical: Our body sends us messages about the condition of our physical being. Paying attention to the information that is emerging means we notice how we feel and give good care to our body. Preventative care means healthy living. Hopefully with healthy living we are prevented from needing medical care. But when we are ill, it is important to give good attention, to rest, and to nurture our body back into wellness. It may seem silly to say, but when we don’t take care of ourselves well, the physical body reflects this. Even if not right away, it does eventually. Eating, exercising, and sleep are the three main areas to consider when looking at altering life habits. If you are getting signals that you need to create new habits, it is imperative to do this in order to manifest a life you deeply desire.

The emotional: I think of our emotional life as energy or fuel that helps drive our behavior. When the fuel is flowing, life flows. What I have found through my work and self-reflection is that old habits of stuffing or ignoring emotions creates blocks inwardly. These blocks manifest outwardly. The work becomes releasing old emotional content, and then becoming conscious of your emotional state and energy in a moment-to-moment way. As part of this consciousness, following the emotional information provided with right action means using our emotional navigation system to help us organize our lives beneficially. This comes with self-understanding, acceptance and then practice. Emotional information followed by right action means creating a pleasing life.

The mental: Our mental energy is a life force within us. We can rejoice in this. It can provide incredible experiences. Without an awareness that we CAN direct our thinking, we often feel trapped in the habitual ways of our mind – like worrying, ruminating over problems and fears, and negatively processing others. These are habits that have developed, usually unconsciously, through our conditioning. As an adult, it is a personal responsibility to change self-destructive patterns into new, enlivening and creative habits. But this is a responsibility that must be chosen by self. There are endless resources to be discovered when a person is ready to change habits!

The spiritual: Our personal connection with a higher power can be life-altering. Through direct experience of our spiritual nature, we open ourselves to a realm of experience that enriches our lives deeply. In order to develop a sense of spirit, to grow the spiritual aspects of life, finding time to be quiet seems essential. Through peace we consciously open the portals to this “other” world and experience. We must choose to seek this quality to our life. When we seek, we discover.

These four parts are all interconnected within us. Each aspect affects the others and the whole being. This is how I think of the term holistic, recognizing that each aspect of our being is integrated through our consciousness. As we develop this awareness through attention and intention, we discover the authentic power that lies within us. So – how is your navigation system working today? In what condition are the different parts of your system? Are they in working order? Do you know how to use them well? Self-assessment and honest reflection will let you know where you need to take steps for change.

Laurel’s Monday Message, 1-9-12

What we do with our minds manifests in our outer life. It’s difficult to make this connection until we begin to learn the skill of becoming the observer. When we become the observer we can literally watch as our mind rolls out its familiar ways it works. While observing, we can learn our automatic thought patterns, attachments we have to outcomes, expectations, the proportions of time we spend thinking positively and negatively, and a host of other useful information about SELF. It is amazing the discoveries to made by learning the skill of observer.

The most powerful aspect of what I am sharing right now, is that as observer we gain intimate knowledge of our conscious process. We shift our locus of control. This means we shift into a state where we become ready to think differently, able to replace dysfunctional patterns, and willing to infuse our mind with beneficial new patterns. This is truly life-altering!

I hope this Monday message motivates you to start working on healthier patterns, today. Every small step we take is important, empowering ourselves with the needed skills to create a life we feel excited with – every day. Click here to listen to my message.

Relationship Growth and 2012

Here we are in a new era of relationship awareness and growth. Spending time talking with clients about what they want in relationships, what feels uncomfortable and individual patterns that they want to change are topics of importance to everyone I encounter. The quality of our lives is deeply impacted by the condition of our primary relationships, so it seems natural that giving good attention and finding understanding about how we are living in our relationships is key to life satisfaction and fulfillment. In fact the more we evolve and learn about our humanity, we are discovering that relationships are at the heart of our personal fulfillment.

Unfortunately, we often feel frustrated and blocked in our relationships and the patterns of interacting and communicating currently established. To push for change may mean that we risk ending important relationships. We avoid change when we fear others will not do the work of self-reflection and acceptance that is required as we sort through the history of our patterns and behaviors, working to develop more effective and supportive ways of approaching our intimate interactions. Indeed it can be a risky proposition to confront unhealthy patterns that we no longer wish to live within but are perpetuated by our inability or unwillingness to address them. In order to find true inner peace, eventually we need to get to the business of addressing and confronting the difficult.

The good news is that with new skills, addressing difficult and sometimes threatening-feeling topics can be – not so bad. We often make drama and extreme scenarios the reality in our minds because of our fear and because of our inability with how to proceed. The new era I refer to is the era of learning the skill of navigating relationships well. Risking the relationship for new beginnings, for more happiness and fulfillment, for inner integrity and honesty by speaking up and learning how to work through whatever issues keep you feeling dissatisfied with your current life circumstances when it comes to relationships – these are skills that I love to share. Finding new life in relationships means confronting what limits us from within, looking at how we might be keeping ourselves, and essentially others, stuck in places we do not want to be.

What limits us from within are the beliefs and patterns we hold onto. We hold onto unhealthy patterns for many reasons, some of which include – because we don’t know what else to do – or because we fear loss or being alone – or we because we avoid confrontation and rejection – or because we are immobilized by others patterns that overpower or minimize what is important to us. We can turn all these patterns around, we can learn new skills, trusting that our inner world wants our attention and communicates to us through any inner distress. The beginning of change and growth is our willingness to risk taking the first step. Often this means we identify and state what we really want, wanting something healthier than the safety of what we already know.

I invite you to listen to a four-part interview that I recorded with Kinlen Wheeler, co-founder of Sacred Pathways. Kinlen shares how she navigates change in her relationship and risks the known for a deeper and more authentic expression of herself in her primary relationship. She shares the tension of taking responsibility of fulfilling inner needs, breaking down old patterns to establish a sense of new life and authenticity in relationship, and turning inward to become clear about personal fears and needs. It is a provocative and compelling sharing that I hope will inspire others to risk looking inward at the truth of what we co-create in our relationships. Click here to access Part I. You will find all four parts of the interview on my YouTube Channel.

Watching these short videos is a great way to start 2012, focusing on the possibility of what life might look like as we awaken to the power of our individual consciousness. Be a part of creating the new world that is arising in 2012 by taking a risk, challenging the status quo. We are the new Earth when we think and behave with true integrity.

My First Monday Video Message

One of my goals is to inspire and motivate you, and those with whom you connect, to take a risk and look within, especially at whatever is troubling you. Through giving yourself the time, attention and love it takes to heal any inner troubles, your self-investment reaps huge dividends. The dividends come in the form of feelings – no longer feeling troubled, but rather feeling proud about the choices you make, feeling empowered by your inner authentic strength, and feeling excited to create from your heart. When you feel this way you become a part of creating a world in which each of us lives our highest good.

Each Monday I will be posting a short video on YouTube to keep your motivation in motion for continuing on your healing path. Click here to go to today’s message. And please, pass the link on to anyone you know who might benefit from my message!